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This... is the Road To Redemption...



Michael McDonald/ No Love to be Found




..and Bryan Duncan is who I am...at least it's the starting point in defining myself... I'm learning responsibilities for my own reasonable happiness...specifically...I'm responsible... to Refuse to see myself by someone else's definitions...

Your listening to Radio Rehab...doin a series of shows on the Responsibilities of Reasonable Happiness... and this show is focused on the responsibility to refuse to see myself by someone else's definitions...

Michael McDonald there... No Love to be Found .... At least not in the labels other people tag you with... it starts early... from parents, family and yea even friends...... stupid... worthless... lazy.. short fat ugly....I'm sure you have your own list...

Key line in this song...if your gonna really love someone.. words alone are cheap... it's more of what you do and less of what you say"... and how you define yourself will determine the things that you do...time to choose who yer gonna be...



India Arie with Bonnie Raitt/ I Choose




That's India Arie with Bonnie Raitt... I Choose...she sings...to be authentic in everything I do... but I don't have to choose... to define who I am... I can always just let other people tell me...but I can't get angry when there definitions aren't too flattering either...

You can be sure that whatever your definitions are of yourself.... it will be translated into your behavior.... maybe you can handle that... but remember.. It will also have an affect on others...and it will have a profound impact upon your children....



John Mayer/ Daughters




John Mayers great song about passing on a better definition of yourself...I don't have to let other people define who I am.. but I can look to other people to see how I want to define myself... with the right focus I can see characteristics in others... that I want to include in my own definition...


Melvin Williams/ Winners




Oh yea... that's Melvin Williams.. that's my kind of soul...think I'll add that to my own definition of me! Winners are just losers who didn't quit! And if yer on the losin side right now ... I'm sure you'll recognize..

Life out of step... ...I've spent a lot of time tryin to live up to my own definitions of myself...I defined myself as someone who was above the law... kind of a superman of sorts... better than most...right all the time...I used a lot of pipe dreams to describe myself.. but pipe dreams usually need a plumber ...without some insight from others ..found myself pretending to be somebody I just couldn't be.. so slowly I began to check out.. of course then... as sure as this sinful world is as it is...my addiction began to define myself..for me...Which only gave other people more room to define me poorly..
Well I guess there's some incongruity in the person I'd like to be sometimes compared to the person I see in the mirror... I guess part of my definition has to change to face the truth about what I'm capable of doing and being in the wrong direction...I can't ignore that I fail often in my endeavors toward sanity... maybe I'll have to define myself in terms of a person in pursuit of a better behavior...based on what I see in my actions Seeing how I have a natural talent for defining other people before they can define themselves...one thing I can do.. is to see the behaviors in others ..that I don't wanna have... arrogance never looks good...a continually depressing outlook on life is really depressing...people who just quit and give up...don't wanna be like that either...stupid looks really unattractive...maybe I oughta get a clue...



Dear God.... Help me define who I am... convince me of my own value... so that I can let the best definition shine...Paul Thorn/ Things Left Undone

I don't think defining yourself ever stops.. there will always be some adjustments... but the refining of defining starts... with who do you wanna be? Lets look at a list of character qualities instead of defects for a change...pursue good definitions so that we don't have any regrets.

That's a powerful song by Paul Thorn... the things left undone...singin about taking the procrastination out of our definition of ourselves.



Williams Brothers/ Thank You




In a nutshell I think the Bible is clear... that God respects you enough to let you define yourself.. You don't hear that too much from those who would not only define who you oughta be for you.. But define God for you as well....maybe that's why step 11 is about improving your conscious contact with God as you understand him... through prayer and meditation on who He is....as the creator of who you are at heart.... here's the chance to be grateful for that...


You've been listening to the Road To Redemption... talking about defining ourselves by our own definitions...lets make em good ones...

I'm responsible for my own reasonable happiness.. and refusing to see myself by someone else's definitions gives me the chance to be myself again...thank God for that.... You've been listening to Radio Rehab again...I'm learning that God loved me enough to send his son to die for me because I'm worth the effort... so, as part of my definition of myself, I'm gonna live like I'm loved whether I feel like I'm loved all the time or not.... I'm Bryan Duncan...a friend of the fallen (there's a better definition of myself already)... keep coming back..