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This is the Road To Redemption


hi... I'm Bryan Duncan your reasonably happy host for this show...still looking at my Responsibilities for Happiness and one of them is I am responsible to set Limits and Boundaries...the first boundary I need to put in place is that I'm not gonna try to define all boundaries... limits and boundaries? There's a couple a ugly words to those of us with addictions and compulsive behaviors...well I'd like to be happy but I gotta problem...



Keb Mo/ Better Man




Welcome to Radio Rehab ...and Boundaries! yea that's been a word I used mostly to protect myself from you... trouble is.. I have been my own worst enemy! Livin in my little crock pot of isolation .. there's a difference between boundaries and walls...

I'm gonna make my world a better place... that's Keb Mo. ..songs called a Better Man.. and to be one.. I'm gonna have to set Limits and boundaries.... keeps the cows from wonderin away...keeps the milk in the glass too...and it keeps this show from running on ad nausium..sometimes less is more.



Joss Stone/ Less is More



That's Joss Stone.. Less is More..." too much of a good thing can be bad"? Aaah man...I think she's singing about limits here... And my lack of boundaries has been the primary reason that my life has become unmanageable! The boundaries I need to place.. are around my OWN behavior... it's like those markers in the river a mile from Niagara Falls .. here's where you wanna stop if you don't want a long ride to the bottom....past this point... no amount of paddling will prevent the uncomfortable consequences...



Jason Mraz/ On Love, In Sadness




This is Jason Mrazí. song. On Love, In Sadness.... A bit of madness... he sings... "you can have your cake and it'll make you sick weather you eat or not" love that line... love this song too...there's a counterbalance needed in boundaries so they don't keep me from my pursuit of happiness...

I think boundaries for happiness start with limits on MY REACTIONS to the behavior of others...remember.. they too are pursuing their own interests....so .. the conflict is comin!....and if I don't have some markers in the ground...I won't recognize the point of no return...



Micheal Bowers/ Point of No Return



Yer listening to the Road To Redemption... it's a rope in the river for those of us who've paddled just a little too far...found out the hard way where our boundaries should have been... recovery is a matter of hangin on while someone on dry land pulls us out...we all get a lesson now and then to tell us where we need to have our markers up...there's no shame in grabbin a rope and trustin a high power on higher ground...

That's Micheal Bowers with a song called Point of No Return.. Reluctant Believer is the project it's on... we're talking about setting limits and boundaries for reasonable happiness on the Road To Redemption...I'm Bryan Duncan...I'm also a reluctant believer.. But I know I CAN set limits and boundaries...I know cause I've certainly limited my success with setting boundaries!...and with that wisdom I think I can embrace..
Life out of Step...I only have a hard time setting limits and boundaries... when it comes to my OWN behavior!... I don't mind telling you when yer crossing the line... see cause that requires no discipline on my part...I don't wanna set my own limits and boundaries though cause at some point I'm gonna have to enforce them...and I already know how hard I am to live with ...I don't even listen to myself if it's gonna be a hard thing to hear... No.. I'm not gonna start thinking about where I should be laying out markers for the way I act...my marker seems to land on more snakes than ladders...cause where I need to put up some boundaries? seems to always be behind where I'm currently standing... feel free to insert your own expletives here! ... cause even my language for describing the boundaries I need to set is probably out of bounds as well...when I was a kid .. I knew I could keep going in my trouble... way past my mom's first warning... there was always gonna be a couple more threats and an insistent commentary combined with an intensifying pitch in her voice and the color in her face.... until she used all three of my names in telling me to quit something.. I would just keep right on goin...see I'm still paying for that behavior! And she's not there to change pitch for me anymore... but I'm still takin my own lickin...



Dear God, please give me a will to be willing.. to check myself at the first warning that I'm takin a side road... help me stay on the Road To Redemption...give me the courage to set limits and boundaries and stand within em...



Take 6/ You Can Make It-Go On




Little encouragement from Take 6... friends of mine too... You Can Make It..Go On...



Doug Williams/ Overwhelmed



Truth is .."We're all about as happy as we choose to be" says Elizabeth Brown in the book "living successfully with screwed up people.. I believe that... so I'm gonna choose my responsibilities for reasonable happiness...and I've got a higher power to help me point out where I need some markers for boundaries...



Oh my...That's Doug Williams singin bout being Overwhelmed with gratitude...I've had some tight limits on that myself... he's not the only one who can be grateful for what he could not do for himself...hey let's dance to this song some more... David...hit that track...that's David Rowe producin this show... just a thought here.. maybe when we get the hang of enforcing our own boundaries... we'll be strong enough to expand a few boundaries.. Like this song... come on baby dance with me.. Little while longer... I think I could do that safely...I'm bryan duncan ...still cuttin a rug... keep comin back